The culture in the United States today, does not actively encourage a dominant/submissive lifestyle. It barely tolerates it amongst adults. If the Dominant is a man and submissive is a woman, people are sometimes openly antagonistic towards it
Here is an example
The hostility of Katie Couric while feigning "not judging" was so blatant, it upset me to say the least! Her "Seriously?" remark even put the guest on the defensive.
"Men who need women to submit to them are nothing but wimps?"
You have the gall to read a comment like this on the air and not say "Seriously?" to it?
Sweet Katie, my Swami does not need me to submit to him!! I crave to submit to him! He is not a wimp! and if anybody says that about my husband to my face, I will smack them!
Yes, seriously Katie. If your husband wants to fuck you every day, let alone every 48 hours, then "Seriously", you must!! And not only must you fuck him, you must blow him, swallow his cum, allow him to enter you anally and let him pull your hair and spank you for being such a total b***h. And then you must thank him and go make him a nice meal!! Seriously!!
Let's see:
- You have outlawed Polygamy in this country, so a man who is evolutionarily programmed to be polygamous, must now depend on his one wife for sex morally.
- You frown on adultery. So a married man cannot go out and have sex with other women if his wife refuses to have sex with him, without the legal system exacting a bitter price for it.
- You "Seriously" don't feel that his "one" wife needs to provide sexual pleasure to him when he wants it.
- If he watches porn and masturbates because his wife doesn't give him sex, you "condemn" that as "objectification of women"
- Yet you want him to be a "monogamous, strong yet gentle, hardworking, sensitive, share the housework equally, only have sex when you feel like it, refrain from cheating, porn and masturbation, diaper changing, respectful" husband??
Breathe! Daasi Breathe!! Please read my apology for this rant here
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Ok. I am back.
Thank you Katie, for sharing your opinion. It was very interesting :-)
I wish you a happy marriage with John Molner. I truly do.
Hugs
BTW, for folks who are wondering, here is Gabby Reece's view
God mother fucking hell. I just wrote a freaking. 3 paragraph response from my phone and fucking mobile blogger decided to erase it. Yay technology.
ReplyDeleteBut the spark notes version was relationships look different to different people. While I do think Ms. Couric's comment about sex seemed to contradict her later "I don't judge" statement, it goes the other way too.
As a community we usually promote open mindedness due to the wide variety of kinks everyone is into. But sometimes we forget that being open minded means being accepting of how the others live. Relationships are partnerships, like the one commenter mentioned, but those partnerships could look very very different from situation to situation.
Fact is if your husband wants to fuck you WITHOUT PRIOR CONSENT that's rape and abuse. It doesn't matter if they're in a relationship or not. And not everyone is comfortable with all that you suggested.
There is no "right" way to a relationship. Just because someone else's way of life doesn't fit into the kink box we set up around us doesn't mean it's any less valid, loving, respectful or fulfilling to the parties involved.
Dear ma'am Daasi. If a man wants a woman to submit to him AGAINST HER WISHES, then I'd agree the man is a wimp. (Or vice versa, if the Woman wants the man to submit to her AGAINST HIS WISHES. I'm not only saying this about men. Women too). However, Your Swami-Daasi relationship with your Swami is based on a mutual agreement. Both of you want this and have agreed on It so there is nothing wrong about it. In the end, its all about ONLY & ONLY mutual consent. Only if both partners want it, then there's nothing wrong in doing it.
ReplyDeleteI always stress on mutual agreement. Now, just imagine if either you or your Swami hadn't wanted this Swami-Daasi relationship, but either one of you forced it upon the other, would it have been fun? Nope. If there's no mutual agreement, where's the fun in it. Right? :)